It is never too late to begin!
Whether you're 14 or 90, you can relearn healthier ways of living, communicating, thinking and reducing nervousness. You can learn to think, "I have faith in myself. There are good people out there. No one has the microscope fixed on me and my actions- in the vastness of the universe- how important is this anyway?". Your physiology will change (the anxiety and adrenaline pumping) as you put into practice your re-learned body language, conversation skills, assertive skills and aggressing skills.
When I use assertive and aggressing terminology, I am referring to your territorial skills- how to defend yourself (asserting) and how to initiate or advance into new territories (aggressing). In the beginning we lack both defense and offense skills. I like to begin with defense skills; you're more likely to put yourself out there in a new situation, if you know you can protect yourself. It sounds counter-intuitive; that you will take more risks engaging in new situations if you can say "no" in some way.
"No" can be in the form of handling questions that feel intrusive, "no" can be in the form of learning the skills to escape a situation, for example, how to politely withdraw from a conversation when you need time out. It can be in the form of saying "no" to an unwanted invitation, or turning down a request for money or time or your possessions.
It can take the form of protecting your personal space; when someone stands too close to you- the ability to create a distance that feels comfortable to you.
Again; it is never too late to begin! You can aquire healthy life tools at any age. But you must always honor your attempts. That's where we'll start.
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