The Australian "speech defect" therapist, Lionel Logue, who developed a friendship with the stuttering King George VI used methodologies extremely useful for shyness and social nervousness applicable in today's world.
Notice how he practiced breathing deeply? Taking a deep breath is important for shyness. It wasn't the only strategy used, but you will eventually be helped by this relaxation exercise. It will not relax you in the beginning, but it will work as a cue to kick in other useful techniques. Also, the more nervous you are, the more likely you're taking shallow, panting breaths.
Did you see how the King's speech was written out? As a shyness coach, I observe that because of the conditional value of perfectionism - (I only have value if I am perfect)- clients won't use notes when giving a speech because they believe they should be able to ad lib. That's an unfair expectation.
An encouraging note: although King George's speech impediment could be traced to poor child-rearing practices tantamount to abuse, I rarely find this with clients who are shy. More on this with the next post.
