Henry Wadsworth Longfellow said "Give what you have to someone else. It may be better than you dare to think."
I am restarting my blog with that quote in mind- to pass on the psychological tools I acquired thru 10 years of training- on how to shrink shyness, social anxiety and phobias that eliminate any pleasure in social situations. Weak social ties are better than none. Something is better than nothing.
Let's start again with you observing yourself as a scientist would; in observation of your thoughts, behaviors, body language, talking-- not as a critical, condemning judge- but someone collecting data about you.
For example- how interesting- I see when she walked into that room she looked very aloof and made no eye contact. She was thinking -I hate being here- what's the use? I am bored to death. She didn't talk to anyone- didn't say hello- goodbye- just walked out. Her heartrate was up, her hands were cold.
For example- he was thinking- that class description kind of intrigues me- but then I'd have to talk to people and there is nothing to talk about in my boring life. He sets the information aside and takes a drink.
You're a scientist collecting information about the subject: you.
